In today’s blog post, we shall be discussing a profound topic, different from our usual.

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This topic is from the second episode and I thought to share the written version today. You can watch the full version on my YouTube Channel.

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God intends to bring light, clarity and hope to as many who feel confused, jilted, and left to hang out to dry as regards their marital prophecy, destiny and promise.

While I realize that this might not be for everyone, I know that this is for someone and I pray that God gives you peace at the end of this article.

It is not unheard of in the Christian fold, the amazing ways that God brings people together in a Christian and godly marriage. A deep research has seen numerous testimonies of how God writes the love stories of people and ordains marriages.

We have also seen a pattern of God speaking to His people regarding their life partners in dreams, prophecies and revelations, as well as bringing them to pass.

However, there seems to be a gap which is left as it relates to this topic. While we love and celebrate godly orchestrated marriages and unions, there is a case of the other side of the pendulum.

The side that sees the aftermath of a destroyed dream. The side that grieves, mourns and ponders on the reason God’s promise, dream or revelation to them regarding their marital destiny did not come to pass.

There are two categories of people I want to introduce in this teaching. The category of people who heard, received and prayed into God’s promise for a spouse, and eventually walked in answered prayers; and then the category of people who similarly heard, received and prayed into God’s promise for a spouse but were met with shame, reproach and heartache.

In this blog post, we shall be focusing on the second category of people. The ones who were revealed their spouses, met them, and eventually watched them tie the knot with someone else.

Especially the ones who were thoroughly convinced of God’s leading towards the said people but ended up never walking down the aisle with such a person.

Like I said earlier, this blog post aims to bring perspective on why things might have gone wrong or awry. This aims to shed light on why God’s promise of your marriage ended up not materializing in your life.

The first thing we need to know is that our God is not the author of confusion. And if He says a thing, it must surely come to pass. So before we go on blaming God and being angry at Him, we need to first verify—

Did God truly speak to you concerning your marital destiny?

We must realize that hearing God is very important as Christians, it should be the basis of our conviction as we journey through life and destiny.

When we fail to hear and discern God’s leading, it can lead to a disastrous end, as the foundation in itself is corrupted. So ask yourself:

Did God truly speak to me concerning my marital destiny?

A number of people might find this question offensive as it questions their credibility and relationship with God. But if we must get to a point, we must critically examine ourselves.

We need to face the harsh reality of the fact that a lot of Christians have gone about their lives and destiny, believing God said, inspired or led something that had nothing to do with God.

Some people have been given what can best be described as demonically engineered visions or dreams planted by the devil as a result of the secret lusts of their hearts.

Consequently, causing the unsuspecting believer to receive something that was never given, with the aim of exposing that believer to hurt and shame.

This is why you must prayerfully find out if God truly spoke concerning the situation. While it might be a tough and hurtful pill to swallow, we must go through the rigorous process of finding out how God speaks to us and fact-check them.

How? Check your track record with God. Discover how God speaks to you or better still, take it to God in prayer. If you realize that you have a track record of making bad decisions, or a record of God’s words never coming to fruition, then you need to take time out to seek the face of God.

Because the devil also comes as an angel of light, deceiving many.

With that said, we move forward to those who truly believe they were led by God. I mean those who are certain that God led them to a certain person for the purpose of marriage, and yet watched the said person walk down the aisle with someone else.

If you are in this position, you will be wondering the reason for such results. You might be struggling to make sense of this situation. To make sense of your faith, which in this case, has gone unrewarded.

Below are some of the root causes behind such cases:

1. THE CHOICE OF MEN:

The topic of man’s will has always been critical in the achievement of God’s plan and programs here on earth. This therefore means that God will not override your will as a human even if it is to the detriment of your soul.

For example, the salvation of our soul is dependent on our choice to surrender our lives to Jesus, which is why God will knock at the door of your heart but never force His way in.

Even though your eternal life hangs in the balance.

This further means that God can call two people (man and woman) for the purpose of marriage, but if they are not in agreement with His plan or will for them, it will not come to pass.

The Bible makes us understand that two cannot walk together except they agree. In the same manner, if a person expressly rejects God’s leading and directive in marriage, especially if such a person is your supposed spouse, it can sadly veto God’s plan.

And in such a case, you can rest assured that God’s compensation plan will be greater.


2. CHARACTER:

Another reason God’s word regarding your marital destiny seems to have fallen to the ground is the case of character.

Ask yourself: Are you marriageable?

If you were given yourself as a spouse would you gladly accept? A lot of people remain sadly unmarried in our world today because of a lack of character and personality.

Some people have missed their God-ordained spouses because of their lack of character, while others have been found wanting by their God-ordained spouse and eventually rejected.

All because of character.

Some lack basic character and people skills, while others are rude, arrogant, intolerable, and the picture opposite of a virtuous and God-fearing spouse.

Consequently, such people have lost out on their marital destinies.


3. MISSED KAIROS OR OPPORTUNITY:

Another reason a person might have lost out on God’s promise in marriage is a case of missed opportunity. Kairos could easily be described as a time allotted to birth certain graces or destinies.

We must understand that God is a God of times and seasons, which means that there is an allotted time for everything under the surface of the earth – including your marital destiny.

If for example, your said partner has been brought to you by God and you failed to maximize the time to bond and take advantage of the seasons God has brought you into, it can lead to a disruption in God’s plan.

For a clearer understanding, if your God-ordained spouse is in a profession that is worlds apart from you, God could divinely bring you into a season that affords you the opportunity to meet with that person.

And when such a season comes by and you are unprepared, ignorant, or unable to maximize the potential given to you, it can make you lose out on God’s plan.


4. DEMONIC ENGINEERING / MANIPULATIONS OF THE DEVIL:

We cannot ignore the devil’s role in making sure that great marital destinies are not birthed. The devil is not happy with the rise of Kingdom marriages and will do anything to destroy God-ordained marriages.

When an unsuspecting Christian fails to defeat the devil and his schemes through warfare, it can lead to the case of an aborted prophecy.


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As we draw to the conclusion of this topic, I leave you with some exercises the Lord will have you do if you have found yourself in a situation where it seems like God’s promise concerning your marital destiny has failed to bring the desired results.


1. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES:

As the word implies, you should learn from your mistakes.

If you have realized that you played a role in the promises of God going unfulfilled in your life, then you should calm down and learn from your mistakes.

Do not allow the events to break you to the point you wallow indefinitely in pain and anguish. Instead, learn from the events and obtain grace never to make such mistakes again.

2. MAKE PEACE WITH IT – ACCEPTANCE:

If your supposed spouse has walked down the aisle with someone else, you need to accept what has happened. Give yourself the permission to cry or grieve over the prophecy lost, but accept it.

Ask God to help you find peace and move on from the pain. It won’t be easy but hang on to God and give Him no rest until you eventually find peace.


3. PRAY FOR SANCTIFICATION:

At this point, the devil will try to tempt you with evil thoughts, bitterness of heart and even wicked imaginations against the blessed couple. The devil will do anything to make you sin against God at this time.

Insist on your sanctification by Jesus’ blood and ask God to heal your heart and make it free from evil and sin.


4. DRAW CLOSER TO GOD, SERVE HIM FAITHFULLY AND HAVE FAITH IN HIM:

Much more than ever, this is the time to draw closer to God. This is the time to throw yourself into His purpose, will and business here on earth. This is the time to serve Him diligently without complaint or compromise. This is the time to trust Him and have faith in Him.

Knowing that He is a God that has the power to settle and give you a perfect end , at the appointed time, if you do not faint.

Do not forget, God’s timing is perfect. Your story is far from over, and your blessing is on the way.

I pray that the grace to overcome will be given to you now in Jesus’ name.

Yet to give your life to Christ? Say this prayer and mean it from the depth of your heart:

“Almighty God, I come before you in the name of Jesus. Lord, I confess that I am a sinner and ask for your mercy.”

“I pray that you cancel my name from the book of death, and write my name in the book of life. Give me power to sin no more and grace to live a Christian life.”

“I decree that the yoke of sin is broken over my life, and I accept Jesus into my life as Lord and Savior.”

“I am a child of God.”

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